40th Day

Posted on: February 29, 2008

Yesterday was my maternal Lola Meding’s 40th death day… Nine days prior, we had novena masses said at the chapel in Sto. Nino for the repose of her soul and to pray for the dead as well. Ma and Pa flew to Cebu from Manila for this occasion.

The last mass was celebrated at the family plot in Cempark at 4pm. The weather was just right for about a hundred of us taking cover under the canopy of steel and tarp. I sat there listening to Fr. Punzalan’s thought-provoking homily while Pa was his usual paparazzi self taking pictures of the event. I occasionally glanced at Ma to see if she was filled with emotion… perhaps in tears, but as I expected, her face was calm. She has long accepted that Lola has passed on.

Although we all miss Lola in a big way, gone is the grief which initially had most of us reeling in pain and feeling of loss. We still talk of Lola with so much fondness, but without breaking into tears as much as before.

“Where you are now, I was… Where I am now, you will be.” was a line that the priest shared. We are consoled by the thought that Lola is in a happy place now where everything is perfect. In time, we’ll all be there too.

This morning Ma & Pa flew back to Manila. A different kind of sadness filled me. Now that Lola is gone, their trips to Cebu will not be as often… Oh well… I will have to save up for trips to Manila instead.

All smiles


8 Responses to "40th Day"

Well, they still have to visit Matt, Kyle and Jake.

I mean, how can you resist a smile like Jake’s??? ๐Ÿ˜€

Flying in an airplane is such an ordeal for Ma. If only there was a bridge connecting Manila and Cebu… Hehehe…

Lola Meding will be missed for sure.
But am sure Mama and Papa will still be coming to Cebu to visit you and the bugoys!

We heard mass last night for Lola and for all those she left behind. Wish I was really there…oh well.

i’m sure tito p and tita m miss the kids already! in the meantime, there’s the ever reliable skype. ๐Ÿ™‚

Don’t I know what you mean, Linnor. We won’t really be done missing them but yes, we should let time do its job and ease the pain.

At least you’re coming over. It doesn’t matter if late by a few weeks from original schedule. ๐Ÿ™‚

How right you are! We are learning to Skype more. ๐Ÿ™‚

Yes, it’s best to enjoy each other’s company as much as possible. Time is a such a limited resource.

No need to entertain such apprehension. We will still be visiting you and family as often as OFTEN itself. And that’s no promise. It is a guarantee!

Your Mamarazzi and I believe that little things turn into precious moments when shared with truly special people—Jake, Kye, Matt, Jerry, and you in that order!:-)

So from Sto. Nino to San Antonio Village we go!

I’m sure it’s the same feeling that Junnie and May feel when they are in Canada and Singapore.

You cannot fault din a person who misses loved ones. ๐Ÿ˜€ Ganun talaga…

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